In case you've been wondering...

[Fellro]

Sorry to hear this Tom. I know from my experience that if they don't want to be in the relationship, then there really is nothing and it isn't worth anything to try to keep them in it. It will only serve to make everyone miserable. Pretty low of her to expect you to take her tot he airport to go see him, and do all this other stuff... definitely a user.

 

[mtflat]

Thanks, All. Especially for those kind words, Trista, and all the rest of you.
One of the things I can't get my head around is that she expects me to still "DO" for her- like to go to Florida and help move her step-dad in a week or two, or I was working on the lawn and she came out to give me her dinner order- I never say this, but WTF???
My beliefs make me treat her with kindness, but I've never seen such a user, before.

Tom, kindly use the word NO to these ridiculous demands. She needs to face the hard, cruel realities of life as soon as possible. You're only making the pain last longer and hurt more. fwiw

 

[6L PWR]

Tom, kindly use the word NO to these ridiculous demands. She needs to face the hard, cruel realities of life as soon as possible. You're only making the pain last longer and hurt more. fwiw

 

[mrfixit]

There has been a lot of water under the bridge in this matter, and thru it all we have managed to stay together so far.
When I was struggling with the decision, I had asked God for guidance, and offered up 3 changes I would want to see take place that would make me decide to stick it out. Donna had no idea what they were, yet all 3 things happened.
We've a long road ahead, but I am not one to give up easily.
Just thought you all should know.

 

[fatherdoug]

Tom, I hope things continue to improve!

 

[O'Rattlecan]

God Bless you buddy.

Ryan

 

[LEB Ben]

Good to hear Tom, just remember, not all things go according to your plan, but they do His.

 

[Austin]

Glad to hear things are working out Tom.

 

[6L PWR]

Thanks for the update Tom!! I try to keep up on Facebook and thought that you seemed much happier lately, but it's hard to tell at times.

Been saying prayers for you both for a long time and will always continue. As I've said, I love to tease with you and I sincerely have MUCH respect for you as a man. I'm very proud to consider you a good friend!!

 

[mrfixit]

Happiness is something that comes with acceptance of God's plan in things-
One problem with facebook is that I can't say some of the things I would like to, sometimes; Too many intertwining lives, if you know what I mean.
That fact is also what brought me back here, this time- At least here I can speak my mind and not be concerned about my family reading it!

 

[mrxlh]

Tom, you gotta do what you gotta do, your a way better man than me, I must have missed this thread when it started, but that would have been the end for me. I would not have looked back. I believe in God, but you never know when your ticket is going to be punched, meaning we only have finite shelf life. I for one refuse to spend any of its moments unhappy.